A friend of mine lent a book to read called the Through away daughter. I was put off immediately by the title because of the first tone. It seems to be the prevailing perception that if you were adopted that your birth parent died or "through" you away. Why? Is it not just as possible that the birth parent is "gifting" the child?
Too often we think that people are heartless or selfish. Perhaps what we believe is more important than the truth at times. I choose to believe that my birth mother gave me up as a gift. Not that she couldn't have raised me on her own, I'm sure that we would have done just fine, but she decided that I would have the best chance if I had two parents instead of one. I sometimes look at those stories that are everywhere of women who have children and decide to keep them without having any of the tools to help that child become the person they have the potential to be. I want it be understood that I am not judging ever girl that keeps their child. It is their choice and if both the mother and the child grow up healthy and happy that is all that matters.
I am thankful to my birth mother for the her selflessness to put me above her desire to keep me, for the gift of my wonderful life, friends, and family.
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